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Tuesday, October 8, 2013

How To Deal With Pain

I created Advanced Style to start a dialogue about aging and to show a positive and uplifting image of getting older. It's equally important to show how older people confront the struggles and difficulties that accompany the aging process. Artist, Ilona Royce Smithkin lifts the spirits of everyone around her. She was kind enough to  share some incredible insight into how she deals with physical pain. We can all learn from her inspiring words below:

Everyday something unexpected happens to our bodies. I fight everyday to get up and out of bed.When I feel a pain somewhere I tell my body, "I'm so nice to you, what do you want from me?" And I tell myself a little story or joke and remind myself of the times when I was in worse pain, and how lucky I am today, and the pain begins to go away. I tell myself that this isn't the first time, or the last time that I will feel pain and begin to occupy my mind with other things. You must get involved in things outside of the pain, things that give you interest. All these things are a part of life. We all feel pain and unpleasantness. As long as I can seduce myself to enjoy all kinds of things, like in the morning enjoying the first cup of coffee, or piece of chocolate the pain begins to diminish. I give myself nice things to look forward to, throughout the day. The moment you give in and let yourself get dragged down by misery you are closer to death.

33 comments:

ohshellsbells said...

how eloquent

Nora Oelke said...

That was truly beautiful.

MeOfCourse said...

Thank you Llona. These are words I will remember each day when I get up in the morning. Your strength impresses me. Thank you for sharing these words and thanks Ari, great post.

thorne garnet said...

well said. Some days when I'm not feel well, I'm so grateful I have a job. I put on something pretty, go to work and feel much better.

Angele Style said...

Oh this is PERFECT. Not just a photo of the person but including their words of wisdom. I would like to see everyone you photograph give us their secrets to a long and fulfilling life. It is so inspiring!!!! Thank you Liona

danielle said...

So lovely. So true.

Helen said...

Lovely message from a lovely woman ...

Charity said...

What a FABULOUS lady! ♥

Lynne oakes said...

This remarkable human being knows what she is talking about. Pay attention.

Shelley Zurek -- Still Blonde after all these YEARS said...

First Ari, I would like to thank you for all you do. Your purpose is so noble and your message so true.

Second, sharing the words of this lovely sassy lady made me weep as I contemplate the pain my own mother is often in. Thank you for the sunshine.

birgit said...

she's so wonderful and my idol

Anonymous said...

She is such a lovely lady and a true inspiration. I, too, regard her as an icon and a pattern for my own advanced style. All your ladies have awakened a new appreciation for aging.

Morgaine Fey @Purji said...

Thank you for sharing these words. They got me a little teary. I am going to print them and remember them. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Thank you, Ilona!
Thank you, Ari!

Scat said...

I love her heart. xox

Penny-Rose said...

Ilona's words brought tears to my eyes and a smile to my lips. She is truly a beautiful person with a lovely outlook on life. I wish more people were like her. xx

Sri Widya said...

Great inspiration from a great lady.

Catalina031 said...

Inspirational!

Catalina031 said...

Inspirational!

mary_mary said...

How I would enjoy having the first cup of coffee in the morning, having a chat with this wise and wonderful lady. How lucky both of you are, Ari, to know each other. x

Sara Perry said...

Perfect timing (as are all your posts). Helpful to all of us at any age.

Anonymous said...

just sent this to my dad, who has pretty much become his headache. maybe he will listen to her.

great advice for all of us - no matter our age.

gratitude, gratitude, gratitude. and being in loving dialogue with our wonderful bodies.

thanks for posting!

cheers,
minette

lei said...

How fortunate you are to have this beautiful woman in your life and how fortunate we are that you share her wisdom with us. thank you!

eli said...

She is a wunderful great Lady!
Thank you Ari
Thank you Ilona

eli

Unknown said...

i just loved reading these beautiful words..... truly a light for us all, thank you!! xx

Anonymous said...

Beautiful,true,and real. Thank you, precious one for sharing..

Can-Can said...

What a wonderful philosophy! Such wonderful wisdom. I have a few people who are in chronic pain and I will share this with them. I'm also having aches and pains as I "advance" and I have been practicing this but not as consciously or eloquently as dea Ilona. Thank you for sharing and for this blog, Ari.

DollZandThingZ said...

Wise and lovely words. Thank you.

The Style Crone said...

Wise words spoken by an ever inspiring woman!

33 said...

thank you ari for treasuring and documenting these seasoned souls. we tend to forget about our elders but we shouldn't. there's so much to learn from them, like ilona.

i will remember this lesson, to be grateful for what i have each day, less bitching and more giving thanks.

please tell ilona that her words have touched me and many others.

xoxo

highlandfashionista.com said...

This is the state of mind we should all aspire to, at any age. So true.

Anonymous said...

Ilona - you are magnificent! Would that all of us, as we age and develop pains and creaks, have such a positive outlook. (And while you're at it, you could come and give a talking to to my 74-year-old sister, who does nothing but whine about her health, which isn't even that terrible...*sigh*)

senhorasnamoda said...

I remembered my mother who is 83 years old and in great pain every day, it has many health problems. She says that when you go out get distracted and forget a bit of pain, so it is always ready for parties and tours. Laughs at your pain and try to always take life with optimism. I hope it always as a reference when you need to face my worst days. Congratulations on your materials, I am your admirer and their models.
Vanda Panzica
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